Normal Is Just a Setting On My Dryer: Dear Mi.rah Ri.ben, of Ad.voc.ate Pub.lis.hing: UPDATED

Tuesday, December 30, 2008

Dear Mi.rah Ri.ben, of Ad.voc.ate Pub.lis.hing: UPDATED

I have explored your websites; I now know why you commented the way you did.

Shame on you! No, I will not publish your comment because it will only inflame my frustration at your kind. I researched you. I demand that you stay away from my blog. I am sorry is your personal daughter's relinquishment went poorly and that she wanted no contact with you whatsoever. I am also sorry that she is no longer living. But... just because you are miserable in your own life and experiences does not give you the right to spew your hate, anger and vile opinions on anyone who is not like minded.

Spread your ignorant, self-loathing, anti-adoption manure elsewhere.

Tammy

2 comments:

Chuck, Sarah and Emily said...: Tammy~
I just want to let you know that you and dh will be in my prayers that God will lead you in the right direction! I think what you are doing is commendable--and totally understand your decisions to adopt that you have made....may God bless you!!; December 30, 2008
Tammy said...: Hey Tammy,

Long time no chat eh! Just wanted you to know I have still been lurking and I am thinking of you. Everyone has their thoughts and beliefs and just because someone thinks differently doesn't give them the right to be cruel. I posted a comment over there because, as someone who is adopted as well, I completely disagree with most of what that website stated (I'm sure it won't be posted though). Keep up the hope, and I think that noone could be a better adoptive parent than someone who has been there. We understand better than anyone else how our minds work so go for it, if it is what you want!
~Hugs~
Laurel; December 31, 2008

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Our Journey

July '98 - DH and I met for the first time

July '99 - DH and I move in together ~ and get engaged

May '00 - Married w/ mandated 3 year wait on baby ~ The only b/c used counting and CM checks

April '01 - I see the PCP, I can't stop gaining weight. I diet, eat right, nothing helps. I am healthy, stop worrying about it. I see the OB and question my long cycles, weight gain, facial hair. First love wand u/s; nothing. The doc says I am healthy, stop worrying.

June '02 - I again question the doc about my long cycles, missing periods, the 85 lbs. of extra weight in 4 years with a healthier diet. Why don't we need b/c? I am healthy, stop worrying

Aug '02 - I get the name of an OB from a friend ~ My hero. I ask about the weight gain, lack of periods, heavy periods, facial hair and why am I not pregnant we are careless not careful ~ PCOS, Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. Blood work to confirmed it, he Dx'd me in 3 minutes. I fall in love with my OB/GYN. :o) Metformin, chart for 4 months, come back. TTC officially begins.

March '03 - Ovulation? lol Clomid for the first time ~ 50 mg.

May '03 - 100 mg of Clomid - DH has really good s/a

June '03- 100 mg of Clomid, Metformin sucks, I become close friends w/ my toilet. Lose weight because that will help TTC. Try for a year; if no BFP, come back.

Aug '03 - Bad accident, 6 months to even have a bad sex life.

May '05 - Still struggling financially from the accident, I give up TTC. The heartbreak it is too much for me, No b/c

Feb '06 - My mother dies suddenly, the pain of her never being a grandmother is too much to handle, life is a bit out of control. I start therapy several months later

May '06 - Charting again, my PCP puts me on Actos for the PCOS and Welbutrin for depression.

Oct '06 - Go to Dr. Wonderful and w/ a plan. I am beyond his expertise; need to see a RE, PCOS specialty. I find WebMD and start learning more than I ever wanted to know about TTC and reproduction.

Nov '06 - I see the RE for the first time and like him a lot. Scheduled for my first major test, give more blood... PCOS

Jan '07 - HSG all clear, no blockage slight endo, normal range

Feb '07 - 100 mg Clomid - nothing

March '07 - 150 mg Clomid - O!

May '07 - 150 mg Clomid - O! - IUI #1 BFN

June '07 - 150 Clomid - O! S/A redone, not good, no IUI

Nov'07 - 150 mg Clomid - O! - IUI #2 BFN

Dec '07 - DH has u/s and b/w... u/s clear, no issues

Jan '08 - S/A comes back worse, low testosterone ~ 25 mg of Clomid fix the problem, hopefully. Go back in 3 months for another s/a... TAB until May 2008, no prevention.

April '08 - BFP for two days, chemical preganncy after 100 day cycle. This sucked.

May '08 - Clomid Cycle with timed BDing - BFN

June '08 - S/A improved Clomid working great but Arimidex has been added. Clomid Cycle, timed BDing. RE visit on June 26.

July - Sept '08 - RE says two medicated cycles, it no BFP, then the third IUI will be scheduled. Please, Lord, let it work.