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Friday, November 30, 2007

"If It is Meant to Happen It Will"

This was prompted by an article link on Mel's, aka Stirrup Queen, blog.

How often are infertile women and men told the "If it is meant to happen it will" or a derivative of that same quote? Why are infertiles supposed to just let it go and let it happen?

I pose a different spin on this assvice given. When a heart patient it dying in a hospital waiting for a transplant, should they be told "If it is meant to happen it will"? What about the child with leukemia or brain cancer? Is the same true? Better still, the mother of an infant who finds out she had ovarian cancer, stage 4; should she be told "If you are meant to survive, you will"?

Why is it that infertiles are given this assvice all the time; yearly, monthly, weekly, daily? Why is this acceptable with infertility but not other diseases? Maybe because it is morally repugnant to tell someone in the aforementioned positions "Que sera, sera. What will be, will be".

I say that we stand up and say, "I am mad as Hell, and I'm not going to take it any more!" (quote is from a news broadcast in the 70s) Stop letting people make up feel less human and selfish for wanting the joy of pregnancy. We need to stand strong and tell them how we feel. Until we do, it will never stop. Let's make it morally repugnant to tell an infertile IF treatments are selfish and that "Maybe it isn't suppose to happen." Let's show them we can be heard and accounted for.

Carpe Ovary! Cease the ovary (and sperm) and take back the shame that is thrown at us and lock it away. Stand proud that we have the courage to do what is necessary to have a child (even if in the end adoption becomes the solution). Because we are a loving, caring, compassionate community with a voice and it should be heard!

P.S. I will put up my 12.5 fighting back up as soon as I can *sheepish smile*. It is the least I can do.


The Town Criers said...

I like carpe ovary :-)

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