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"Always look on the bright side of life?"
"No, 'Nobody expects the Spanish Inquisition.'"

Thursday, July 10, 2008

Seriousness, Silliness, and Steel Magnolias

My life changed almost 10 years ago (in two weeks it will be 10 years since our first date). I met my other half. I don't think I have had many dull moment since.

When I first got married, I was still very into self and what my life was at the time. I was 25 and I thought I had things under control. I was very wrong. I had no clue.

Within the first 4 years of my marriage, I let my covetousness get in the way of a close friendship. I can say that now. I was jealous but I was too self-centered to really admit it. I know now I could have gotten passed it quicker if we would have been closer in proximity but, alas, that did not happen. I wish I had been around to see my silly cohort pregnant.

Ten years will change everyone. We grow, we learn, we forgive, we love. I am not the same person I was 10 years ago. I like to think I am a better person for all that life has thrown at me.

I have learned that begrudging a friend's happiness over the gift of children is not only wrong, but crazy. Do I still get bristly at pregnancy by strangers and "lack of common sense" pregnancies, yep, but not friends. I may not have even been able to say that a few years ago, but I can now. (DH's BF's wife told us she was pregnant a couple of months ago and I wasn't even phased much. I am growing up... lol)


Ever have one of those friends that you can just be silly with and you just don't care? You get looks in restaurants and theaters (because you are making up stories about the people in front of you and start laugh hysterically). People think that someone had let the both of you escape the asylum for the day. That is was me and my friend Jenette.

The laughter and tears came easy and the memories are every emotion out there. We learned from each other...
  • Always use paint striper before you paint over cabinets... and make sure that you ventilate the house when you paint, even in February @ 2 am.
  • Never take hand-me-down boyfriends... Only bad things come of that... (BTW, the boyfriend is still single and still the same playboy)
  • You can take the turn at Malfunction Junction at 65 miles an hour in a jeep
  • Little kids can be convinced that a petite redhead is a leprechaun
  • A movie can be "owned" between friends and it will forever remind you of that person
  • A good man can be found on the Internet... and they even make decent husbands
  • Deeply religious conversations cannot be had with any intelligence at 3 am by 3 goofy blondes, especially in Song of Solomon
  • The cow goes "Moo" (not says, the cow goes "Moo")

After 7 years of wondering, missing, praying, etc., a connection has been reestablished. My heart is full. I don't know what the path will be, how it will go, or where it will lead but I know that God will lead us both.

Oh, and Netters, I would positively love to have a Steel Magnolias fest and the chance to add more movie quotes to our repertoire.


Jenette said...

So, drop me an email. :) My email is my first and last name, no spaces @fuse.net

I can't wait to see you again. I can't wait to hug you. Where are you living now? Still in Ohio, I gather? We are north of Cincy, just outside of the 275 loop.

Email me. Immediately. There is an aisle in Meijer that I need to take you down, at 3 am... so that we can leave scented trails for others to follow.....LOL!!!!

jenn said...

How wonderful! I'm so glad for you! I am excessively lucky in that my 'Jenette' is right here in Philly- we grew up together & ended up in the same city for college. She is my other half- if we have a sleep over our significant others aren't allowed to stay in the room with us because we turn into tennagers again.
It's so incredibly wonderful & amazing to be able to pick up where you left off & those types of friendships really never die. I'm so glad you guys found each other again!